If you’re anything like me, you start your Sunday by innocently thinking about the week ahead and the rough idea of your schedule. You start with the non-negotiables, like your full-time job, or grad school, or side hustle hours. Add in a few fun weekend and evening plans with friends, and a yoga class slash that trip to the gym that keeps you sane. Oh, and you put off laundry and that bulk store run last week so you have to squeeze those in as well!
Before you know it, every minute of your day is micro-planned to the point where your free time is feeling constricting rather than liberating. Looking to take back your time? So am I!
- Stop the glorification of busy: I truly think that in our society we have a mass cultural problem with the manner in which we view down time. It has almost become bragging rights for one to talk about the five balls they’re juggling. Ask yourself, when was the last time you intentionally scheduled a few hours just for you? We’re all different, but personally, without a couple evenings a week with zero plans post-work, I can feel my vitality deflate like a balloon.
- Indulge in pleasurable activities guilt-free: I’m all for decompressing in the best way for you. If that involves an episode or two of Netflix (I’ve just hopped on the Grey’s bandwagon only about ten years late), taking the time to craft a gorgeous meal that lights you up, or indulging in fifty pages of that novel that is totally unrelated to school, do it. The catch is- you cannot self-shame for “wasting your time.” Filling up your self-care bucket is the only way that you can keep on keepin’ on in other areas of your life.
- Consider the three basket theory. Listen more about it here, but the idea is that our lives can be divided into 3 primary categories: vitality (self-care), connection (relationships with others and our source), and contribution (output to society such as career). The most full bucket will always be limited by our emptiest. Meaning, if you are devoting all your time to connecting with friends and killing it at work, but lacking on sleep and neglecting your health, you cannot devote 100 percent to the vitality and connection buckets. Paradoxically, by stepping away from the emptying buckets, you will become centered.
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